Earlier in the evening I had gotten pretty irritated with someone I don't even know in person for saying something rude to me and my friends on my Facebook status. How's that for a first-world problem? Me, irritated with a barely-known person, for typing some little words into a box and pressing enter. I was irritated that she chose to put her pet cause ahead of being kind, but in the meantime I didn't respond with much kindness either. In fact, I didn't respond at all. I deleted her comment and then clicked that mysterious little button that I have rarely touched: unfriend.
And I've been pondering it ever since.
Is there some better way I could have handled it? Could I have said something that would make her think twice the next time she chooses to berate people she doesn't even know? Should I have? To be honest, my first instinct was to say something pretty rude back, incite a "discussion" and eventually get her to realize that she was wrong and a jerk and I, as usual, was totally right. True story. Special, isn't it? The way pride works? Fortunately, only a few words into my carelessly crafted comeback I came to my senses and availed myself of the backspace button.
So on the one hand, I could pat myself on the back for not responding in a similarly rude manner. But Lord knows I've already done that. For several hours in fact. All evening, I strutted around the internet, with blood boiling and back being vigorously patted. Until the fateful moment that the Holy Spirit inspired my daughter's simple but crucial observation: the answer is always Love.
Inasmuch as I can tell myself that she ought to be more loving and that he ought to be too, my only real responsibility is to be loving myself. To show God's love, not to simply preach it. To not just love the the causes and people who I look upon with fondness but also, or even moreso, to love those with whom I disagree.
Putting 'right' above 'love', putting 'funny' above 'love', putting 'useful' above 'love'- it's all wrong. The answer is always Love.
Now I find myself in a quandary. What to do about that 'friend'? I've never actually met her. She sent me a friend request only recently. Despite my intentions to the contrary, I still feel that her word choice belies a certain character that I cannot support. And I am kidding myself if I imagine she truly cares what I, as an individual, truly think. But I know that she though what she was doing was "good" despite it being mean. And I want to put love first.
What would you do?