If I ever have to go back to work outside the home, I hope I can go back to doing something just like that.
When you're homemaking, there are a lot of things expected of you (mostly expected of you by yourself, amiright? Like sometimes I say to my husband "gosh, I'm sorry I didn't get to *insert obscure house cleaning task here* but there just aren't enough hours in the day!" and he looks at me with this "wow, I have no idea whatsoever what you're talking about, but you're pretty and I like you so I hope I say the right thing here..." face and I realize that...you know...I've taken things a little too far) and I'd wager to guess that most of us don't love every single aspect. I mean we're trying and we're learning but, just, temperaments and talents and all that.
So I think it's nice, maybe even important, for us to name and acknowledge the things we do love or are good at. That way if we're feeling especially bedraggled and put upon whilst trying to live out our vocation (you know, the only path that's going to get us to a joy filled eternity? Heaven help me.) we can cling the That Thing and thereby feel not so inept.
Gosh I hope I'm not the only one who still sometimes feels inept at the very thing she's supposed to be the boss of.
For me That Thing is what I like to call "inventory management." And this, y'all this is why I was such a good buyer. I love making sure we have enough of stuff. Not too much, not too little. Enough that we never run out, but not so much that we use up all our storage space and/or money. It's a beautiful balancing act weighing the awesome deal on shampoo against the other required expenses for the month. It's empowering for me in my current role to look at our backstock shelves and see multiple units (oh girl, you know I call them units. I do, I do, I do. Ain't no shame.) of our most used non-perishables.
A whole shelf devoted to paper goods (YES I DO SO CALL THEM PAPER GOODS. Raisin' my hands to testify....)- my tissues, my paper towels, my toilet paper- makes me feel like I'm winning at homemaking. It really does. I want to think I ought to ask if that's sad, but I just don't think it is. Because it's so useful!
But it's not the only useful thing. There are as many useful things as there are expectations of us as mothers. What's your Thing? Maybe you've never thought about it before. Maybe you think you're not very good at any of it. If that's the case, I can pretty much promise you that you're just not acknowledging that the thing you're good at is important. Like maybe "I suck at all things mothering and homemaking. I mean sure I make up really fun stories that my kids love, but that's not a reeeeeeal thing...." or "I wish I could do better at all things I'm not really fond of, but instead I'm just going to real quick bake my family their favorite gourmet dessert and have it finished in time for dinner..."
It's good to try and do better. It's good to improve. It's good to acknowledge our shortcomings and work to narrow that gap. But some days are just hard and we feel like...we feel like the thing we can't do is the very thing we were created to do and how can that even be a thing, Lord help me. For those days especially, it is so good, so helpful, to know what we are really talented at. To be able to take a breather and do That Thing so we can remind our doubting selves that yes, we've got this. That not every single bit of it is ridiculous and all-consuming.
For me it's inventory management. For you it's probably something else. If you don't already know what that is, investigate a little. Get to know your homemakerself a little better. Appreciate what your natural talents at least as much as you bemoan your shortcomings. It's good. It'll be good for everyone.
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