tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post265958624472879025..comments2024-03-29T05:24:57.634-04:00Comments on House Unseen. Life Unscripted.: To My Babies in HeavenDwija {House Unseen}http://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-65026482211371714282013-07-05T19:01:46.663-04:002013-07-05T19:01:46.663-04:00I know this is a little late, but I wanted to give...I know this is a little late, but I wanted to give my two cents on naming you babies. We have lost two already this year, and we struggled to decide what to name them. They were both lost too early to know the sex. We ended up giving them each a girl and a boy name. This wasn't planned, it was just the names we picked, but I think it's a good way of doing it. We chose Joachim Anne and Hope Ignatius. It is never too late to name them and I am glad we did.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12351047111282702259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-31783791298228986982012-12-18T12:10:52.140-05:002012-12-18T12:10:52.140-05:00I just found your blog today. First, I am sorry f...I just found your blog today. First, I am sorry for all that have experienced the death of a baby. I have had two miscarriages and I have a saint that lived for 5 days. His name is Thomas Daniel, we call him Tommy(Jan 10.-Jan. 15, 2001.) He was born in between my first two daughters. He is very much in our lives. He is in our prayers everyday/night and we ask for his intersession. Due to his brief earthly life, my husband and I started a support group in our community to help other parents cope with the death of an infant due to miscarriage, etopic,still birth, and infant death. We have been helping families for almost 12 years. The book that helped me the most was "Letters to Gabriel," by Karen Santorum. <br />I have not named the other babies. I feel that I do not need to and that Tommy is with them and that he is watch out for his earthly siblings. I ask him to pray for you and all the other mothers that go through this grief. Just know that no one should feel guilty and that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. <br />Thank you for such a wonderful blog.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16933161753726529465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-66670198487112388722012-12-14T00:27:35.688-05:002012-12-14T00:27:35.688-05:00I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain you...I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain you're experiencing right now. I don't know if you'll see this, but if it was meant to be, here is a post that another friend wrote just today: http://timeflieswhenyourehavingbabies.blogspot.com/2012/12/on-feast-of-saint-lucy.html Maybe it will also help to soothe you. Prayers for you, friend!Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-79014604838133900712012-12-13T20:43:06.704-05:002012-12-13T20:43:06.704-05:00Thank you so much for this beautiful post. I just ...Thank you so much for this beautiful post. I just found out a couple days ago that I miscarried our baby and had a d&c today. I am so sorry for your losses. You are the kind of mother I want to be; right now I'm just hurt and angry and I want to hold my baby. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-81811418309150774402012-07-12T17:53:25.690-04:002012-07-12T17:53:25.690-04:00Oh, Dweej... somehow I didn't realize this. I...Oh, Dweej... somehow I didn't realize this. I have lost, also, and I write this with tears streaming down my face in gratitude and poignant sorrow. Thank you for the bravery to write what I have only ever felt in my heart. Much love to you and yours, here and beyond.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-5369485336876006792012-04-22T01:55:02.903-04:002012-04-22T01:55:02.903-04:00Thank you for sharing. Wishing you amazing blessin...Thank you for sharing. Wishing you amazing blessings always. Maybe you could name them Sun, Sky, and Star? Or Angel, Saint, and Halo? Or Peace, Love, and Joy? Maybe I'm silly, but just sayin.ESSENIChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16234966832098113162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-10567519044740695742012-04-10T09:31:08.570-04:002012-04-10T09:31:08.570-04:00Your letter is very touching and so real. Thank yo...Your letter is very touching and so real. Thank you for your comment on my blog. I read that others have urged you to name your babies. I named my babies and had their names are written in the book at the Shrine of the Holy Innocents in New York. They send you certificates as a special gesture and people pass by this book everyday and pray for the families that have experienced the loss of a little one. Masses are also said. So many intercessors can only be a good thing.<br /><br />http://www.innocents.com/shrine.asp<br /><br />God Bless you and your family. Congratulations on your pregnancy, also. I thank you again for your kind words. You are in my thoughts and prayers.Tina Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14091162271468740853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-53346988493973093422012-01-25T19:12:44.807-05:002012-01-25T19:12:44.807-05:00Thank you for this. We just recently lost a little...Thank you for this. We just recently lost a little one and this was very touching.Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07767555436747678165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-42176556837839143002011-10-24T21:38:20.754-04:002011-10-24T21:38:20.754-04:00I have never been to your site before, I found it ...I have never been to your site before, I found it on Barefoot and Pregnant. This is beautiful, and incredibly moving. I am very blessed, I have 8 living children, and I am so thankful for each of them. In my last 16 years of marriage, I have also miscarried 6 children. Last week, I went in for the "big" ultrasound of our identical twins, only to find out they had died. I was induced and delivered my sweet baby boys the next day. I am so heartbroken, and having a hard time dealing with this loss. Finding this, today, is helping. I am so mad. I prayed for these little babies everyday. I had a feeling something wasn't going to be right, but it all seemed to be going so well. But they are gone. We named them George and Gabriel. And Emily C. - you don't sound like a loon, not to me. With my first loss, and ectopic pregnancy which I didn't allow them to do anything for until I was assured that my baby had died, (I just didn't know what to do), I had a dream, a consolation, of my baby. He told me his name was Matthew, and that he would be our special intercessor, that he would watch over our family, and pray for us. <br />We lost two more babies before I knew I was pregnant, and I believe that one of their names is Jordan, after the Jordan river where Christ was baptized. I have asked for the other name to be told to me, or come to me, but I am waiting. I pray, hope and believe that my babies are together, listening to the angels sing, and waiting for us. We too have told our children that they are there, waiting and praying for us. And no, I think you are perfectly correct, God knows us so well, that he knwos we would do anything to get to our children, even if it is hard, even if it takes a lifetime. I want them so very much, and I truly and struggling now, but your post has helped me remember what I have known all along. Our Lord is in charge, He creates for His kingdom. His ways are not the ways of man. My babies are safely in His care. I await the day I will see them again - they are indeed a most precious incentive. God Bless you and your Family, MeganTrue Daughter of Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02497945822170843088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-90092437701802851132011-10-24T18:41:54.840-04:002011-10-24T18:41:54.840-04:00prayers...prayers...priest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-72482778650186497282011-10-24T10:44:15.050-04:002011-10-24T10:44:15.050-04:00Dwija, what a heartbreaking post. You were worthy ...Dwija, what a heartbreaking post. You were worthy of being their mom the moment you conceived. I am so sorry that either of us has to spend a day without our babies.McKennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09299201553545817162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-23638167311162807992011-10-21T15:21:50.465-04:002011-10-21T15:21:50.465-04:00i read this via melissa loen and it brought tears ...i read this via melissa loen and it brought tears to my eyes. i just lost a baby last month and you put into words every feeling i have had but have been unable to put into words. thank you! jenniAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-10267087310504290842011-10-21T13:45:57.991-04:002011-10-21T13:45:57.991-04:00I'm so very sorry for the three babies you los...I'm so very sorry for the three babies you lost. So very, very sorry. <br />My mom had two miscarriages and I was maybe 7 or 8 - and I understood what happened. It is comforting to know that I have a brother & sister in heaven. Thanks for the reminder to pray for their intercession in my life!All in His Perfect Timinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00300978285191861049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-55283165005774643632011-10-21T12:24:04.692-04:002011-10-21T12:24:04.692-04:00Hugs, my friend. I have a little one up there too....Hugs, my friend. I have a little one up there too. It'll be 5 years in December and it's amazing to me that just typing that smacks me so forcefully after all these years. I go MONTHS without thinking about it but when I do...BAM. Right back to that doctor's office. Much love.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.alittlenosh.net" rel="nofollow">Amy @ A Little Nosh</a>Amy Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082798717699003150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-21645944753931758962011-10-20T20:28:16.488-04:002011-10-20T20:28:16.488-04:00Oh, Dwija, now I have tears in my eyes. I'm no...Oh, Dwija, now I have tears in my eyes. I'm not really religious, but this really spoke to me. <br /><br />I have one angel baby too.Amber_Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01065654066135186743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-91001423896960880052011-10-20T01:09:05.807-04:002011-10-20T01:09:05.807-04:00I lost a child between my first and second. I held...I lost a child between my first and second. I held his/her impossibly tiny, but undoubtedly human, body in my hand. I will never forget the joy I had those three months he and I were together brought me. We didn't name him/her because we could not tell the gender. It knaws at me. I want to name the baby someday, so we can have a grave marker made. <br /><br />It's so hard. It's hard wondering what my life would have been like with that child as part of our family. I wonder what he would look like, what kind of person he'd be. On the other hand, I would not have my precious son Henry if that child had lived to term. I can't imagine our family without Henry. <br /><br />Miscarriage is truly a heartbreaking thing. I wept reading your post and all the comments. Thank you for this.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117120475033380036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-43538809766350679972011-10-19T18:05:09.560-04:002011-10-19T18:05:09.560-04:00My mother told my sister and I about our brother i...My mother told my sister and I about our brother in heaven when we were still very young and I am very happy that she did. It has always been a wonderful motivator for me, not just to get to heaven myself, but to be a better big sister and it's comforting to know that I have a big brother who is watching over me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-45336753192550197892011-10-19T18:03:02.177-04:002011-10-19T18:03:02.177-04:00That was beautiful. I'm so sorry you had to ex...That was beautiful. I'm so sorry you had to experience such losses. I wish no mother had to bear that pain.<br /><br />I have not lost a child, but my mom did lose my older brother. She was young, only 16, and was planning to give him up for adoption. He was born with a genetic disorder affecting his lungs, and only lived a very short time. I can't even imagine how devastated she must have been. She shared his story with me when I was about 10 years old. At first, I was very, very sad. I hated the fact that he never had a chance to live. But after a while, I was glad to know of him. I've often imagined him looking down on us from heaven and I look forward to someday meeting him. His name was Isaac :).Clairehttp://faithfamilyandlifeexploration.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-75475202279280744642011-10-19T17:25:39.851-04:002011-10-19T17:25:39.851-04:00Thank you, Dwija. Such powerful emotions put beau...Thank you, Dwija. Such powerful emotions put beautifully to words. Moved me to tears--happy and sad ones. I've got 2 saints in heaven myself. Thank you.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09226221355071533251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-10127289222752043662011-10-19T11:37:57.599-04:002011-10-19T11:37:57.599-04:00Good Lord D....this is... well, there arent words ...Good Lord D....this is... well, there arent words for it really...amazing doesnt come close... you need to get this published in a Catholic newsletter, a book, a pamplet for mothers who are suffering through miscarriage, abortion or the loss of an earthly child... to give them support, strength and a purpose...to serve as a reminder that Gods plan for them is better than theirs and one day they can be be reunited in heaven with God and their babies forever and ever. beautiful.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232576218111983924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-75264029245337681872011-10-19T11:36:39.667-04:002011-10-19T11:36:39.667-04:00I haven't dealt with this kind of loss, but am...I haven't dealt with this kind of loss, but am surprised by how many have. Beautiful post about your other three.Kara @ June & Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08579815470078229123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-597521815207782882011-10-19T10:41:36.750-04:002011-10-19T10:41:36.750-04:00I lost two but have spent very little time in life...I lost two but have spent very little time in life thinking about them. I believe strongly that everything happens for a reason and that someday I will see the reason. Wonderful postJamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08938378044931508438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-85592116867383961942011-10-19T09:50:42.085-04:002011-10-19T09:50:42.085-04:00Oh Becky, thank you for your sweet, heartfelt word...Oh Becky, thank you for your sweet, heartfelt words. It's incredible how we can come together in our sorrows through this medium and from it comes the joy of community. Hugs!Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-29762968584788865802011-10-19T09:48:09.480-04:002011-10-19T09:48:09.480-04:00Thank you for your response to the mother who didn...Thank you for your response to the mother who didn't feel "entitled" to her grief. My firstborn was a twin, but I miscarried at 5 weeks with one and carried my sweet boy to term. Had we not seen the ultrasound, we never would have known about our second baby. Thank you for shining a spotlight on what can be "closet" grief, and for being so honest about your own. This is certainly one of your many vocations, Dwija, and I feel blessed that God's plan has brought your words to all of us. You are an example of divine providence in action, and your family (on earth and in Heaven) is in my prayers. -- BeckyBecky Dolgenerhttps://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=1620496655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-80618871446440612252011-10-19T03:29:32.395-04:002011-10-19T03:29:32.395-04:00Wow, Dweej, this is an amazing post. Amazing that ...Wow, Dweej, this is an amazing post. Amazing that you are such a strong person, and amazing that you know and feel comfort that those three little ones are being taken care of so well right now. I cannot even imagine, but I still feel for you. Thanks, once again, for opening up and sharing this.TexaGermaFinlaNadianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14203116752208683591noreply@blogger.com