tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post4414927026098141268..comments2024-03-28T04:36:56.831-04:00Comments on House Unseen. Life Unscripted.: Not always for meDwija {House Unseen}http://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-20237731153757031722015-10-22T14:19:00.172-04:002015-10-22T14:19:00.172-04:00Oh goodness! And only yesterday I was telling ever...Oh goodness! And only yesterday I was telling everyone my babies are here to make me a better person and get me to Heaven. :) As I'm expecting my second child I am sure I'll see the reality of how important they are to their siblings and not just for me. Oh how sneaky the ME ME ME mentality ALWAYS creeps in.. even when we think we're having wonderfully pious thoughts!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02907558440233865252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-89217925794744775642014-11-23T21:06:51.773-05:002014-11-23T21:06:51.773-05:00What a great post and so fitting in my life right ...What a great post and so fitting in my life right now, my kids are 19, 16, and 12.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086635290946274033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-33060529492308500212014-11-19T22:56:24.561-05:002014-11-19T22:56:24.561-05:00Love this. Love this. Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03691072328903638486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-15964696035464331642014-11-19T22:23:18.797-05:002014-11-19T22:23:18.797-05:00You're just the best. Thanks for the perspecti...You're just the best. Thanks for the perspective adjustment.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08599310461757021645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-74442922160699158252014-11-19T21:19:28.368-05:002014-11-19T21:19:28.368-05:00Ahhh yes. This one. What you've written is pre...Ahhh yes. This one. What you've written is pretty counter cultural right now. It's all about "mommy & me" up in dis life, which is good and great until it does become as you say "I get all the mothering gold stars" and then if we somehow (read:ALWAYS) get it wrong it becomes "now I've ruined their childhood and who they'll become". So many of us need to know this. And yes, the relief is just grand :)Carolyn_Svellingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03508416600061194482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-14190697649035798402014-11-19T17:47:37.227-05:002014-11-19T17:47:37.227-05:00Wonderful words to ponder - thank you!
many blessi...Wonderful words to ponder - thank you!<br />many blessings<br />KarenKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116744968777228314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-29625642100183084172014-11-19T08:20:54.672-05:002014-11-19T08:20:54.672-05:00Definitely a whole blog post :)Definitely a whole blog post :)Anneryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04954066811992919236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-79963623077138700122014-11-19T05:30:36.181-05:002014-11-19T05:30:36.181-05:00You didn't miss the point at all! This defini...You didn't miss the point at all! This definitely goes right along with it and coincidentally something Ive also been thinking about with regard to our house selling. The best buyer is praying for our house to be theirs (even if they don't know about our house yet) so if this deal falls through, it will be the answer to someone else's prayers and maybe I can be patient and help facilitate that instead of assuming the memememeeme there, too.Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-66469536954868857462014-11-18T23:54:57.030-05:002014-11-18T23:54:57.030-05:00I'm actually having similar thoughts with God&...I'm actually having similar thoughts with God's plans for when/how our house sells. We wanted it to sell by owner muy pronto. Deal fell through. Now we're still on the market and needing a realtor and I JUST WANT TO CONTROL ALL THE THINGS. And then it occurs to me: we can handle waiting a bit, we can handle paying a Realtor, we can handle coming down in price, etc. Maybe our future buyer is praying, "Dear God, please let the right house pop up in the MLS this week. We really need to close by X." And then it'll work out and instead of thinking, "Gee, thanks for barely lifting a cosmic finger on this one!" we can think, "Isn't it amazing that our house, which is beautiful and the most affordable single family in a great town, just got sold to a widow who thought she'd have to for sure make her kids change schools?" Or something like that...anyway--it hadn't really occurred to me before that what feels like God putting me on hold for no reason may really be Him answering a prayer from someone else.<br /><br />Or maybe I just missed your whole point, but I liked the post anyway!FarmAndAwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456986046128250135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-77851637841311605792014-11-18T20:00:48.177-05:002014-11-18T20:00:48.177-05:00This is great, Dwija. I linked to it in my own pos...This is great, Dwija. I linked to it in my own post tonight--please let me know if that's not okay! (I'm new to this blogging thing--still figuring out the etiquette.) :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-89424418828317279972014-11-18T19:02:58.634-05:002014-11-18T19:02:58.634-05:00They are not always for me. I need to remember thi...They are not always for me. I need to remember this. Because it really isn't all about me and being recognized as a good mom. I just need to be good because I should, but let them be kids in their own right and have relationships with others. They are building relationships with so many other people right now too - more people than this stay-at-home-mom - and that's gotta be hard!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17516571233579403525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-74308366412347562212014-11-18T17:13:12.677-05:002014-11-18T17:13:12.677-05:00This reminded me of something similar I said to my...This reminded me of something similar I said to my sister. She adopted a child who turned out to be very needy, difficult and troubled. It has made her life much more complicated and has given her more sufferings than she imagined parenting would have. When my sister is discouraged and depressed about how things are going, people often tell her how much good she's doing and what a better life she's given this child than she would have had, etc. But once I had a rare inspiration and said to my sister: "What if it's not about you making her good, what if it's about this child making you (and her husband and her siblings) better?" She said that helped put it in a new light and take off some of the perfectionist pressure.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801249821219191027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-17521319692083933672014-11-18T16:52:07.564-05:002014-11-18T16:52:07.564-05:00AwesomeAwesomeAngela Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08264664659789446452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-74413179433422405082014-11-18T16:43:35.002-05:002014-11-18T16:43:35.002-05:00Well this is a relief.
Thank God for more experi...Well this is a relief. <br /><br />Thank God for more experienced mothers with internet connections. Truly. Light at the end of the tunnel.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923751596148085363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-88363065925105186252014-11-18T16:02:46.694-05:002014-11-18T16:02:46.694-05:00Wow. Thank you for sharing this. Wow. Thank you for sharing this. Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17699055172049185864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-9338695809118779002014-11-18T15:48:12.926-05:002014-11-18T15:48:12.926-05:00I've wondered about this myself too. When my o...I've wondered about this myself too. When my oldest was a baby, I was rocking him one night thinking, "this kid is here to teach me patience for sure." Then I stopped in my tracks and thought, "I wonder if he's here to teach his future wife patience too." Then I stopped again and thought, "What if he's here for a totally different reason altogether?" It seems like such a simple idea... but it was a little shattering to me. This kid may be set on this earth to do great things, great things that have nothing to do with me. Caitlynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13749026285320725448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-66105336801856634412014-11-18T15:39:34.582-05:002014-11-18T15:39:34.582-05:00I like this and I'll have to think about it so...I like this and I'll have to think about it some more. I had a similar realization when really hoping to get pregnant with #4 - this isn't just about when *I* have a baby - this will be this person's birthday and year, etc, for her whole life. Maybe me not getting pregnant right now isn't related to me at all.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12841896917157596550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-23287471249469743422014-11-18T15:13:21.505-05:002014-11-18T15:13:21.505-05:00Oh yes yes yes. I have three, four and under, and ...Oh yes yes yes. I have three, four and under, and the third (almost same age as your bebe!) really changed things around here such that the relationship amongst all of them has eclipsed their relationship to me in some ways. Pressure. Hahah!Nell @ Whole Parenting Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18191618874497967241noreply@blogger.com