tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post7971958494349699465..comments2024-03-28T04:36:56.831-04:00Comments on House Unseen. Life Unscripted.: 5 Reasons my Marriage comes Before my ChildrenDwija {House Unseen}http://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-28685723639405161752015-07-31T22:56:43.264-04:002015-07-31T22:56:43.264-04:00Wow. In my 19+ years of marriage, I've never ...Wow. In my 19+ years of marriage, I've never heard it put so beautifully, so truthfully. Yes, we ARE the Sacramental relationship in the family. Yes! Thank you for this!<br />Jennifer Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08256696662354710673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-66879485603849894212015-02-14T10:19:56.253-05:002015-02-14T10:19:56.253-05:00Thanks for all your help and wishing you all the s...Thanks for all your help and wishing you all the success in your business.<br /><a href="http://climatemasters.unl.edu/UserProfile/tabid/57/UserId/126283/Default.aspx" rel="nofollow">Local-Cheaters.com</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00019635044616725632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-23853010549587955052013-09-19T03:46:25.000-04:002013-09-19T03:46:25.000-04:00Well my wife already knows the divorce date and sh...Well my wife already knows the divorce date and she could care less. Our marriage is over and I'm staying until our youngest is 18. She will never ever follow this adviceInternet Marketing Advicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15853085658514336520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-83576776850297035672013-09-19T03:45:32.039-04:002013-09-19T03:45:32.039-04:00Well my wife already knows the divorce date and sh...Well my wife already knows the divorce date and she could care less. Our marriage is over and I'm staying until our youngest is 18. She will never ever follow this adviceInternet Marketing Advicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15853085658514336520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-23958370642861247762013-06-17T15:58:32.871-04:002013-06-17T15:58:32.871-04:00Where is your follow up post, 5 Simple Ways to Put...Where is your follow up post, 5 Simple Ways to Put your Spouse First? I would really love to read that!Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05518303804861025379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-41017906500011496212013-02-28T18:34:28.917-05:002013-02-28T18:34:28.917-05:00I wish my husband can see this, our life is consum...I wish my husband can see this, our life is consumed with our kids he never any time for me. When we go out we go out in separate nights with friends because he doesn't like to leave the kids with anybody. The kids stay in our bed until 10 or 11 pm, sometimes I fall asleep before they leave my bed. I tried telling him over and over that I need sine alone time also and he says I'm jelous because of my kids getting the attention. I'm scared that if we have no time alone when the kids are older we will have nothing on common a it is I feel like I don't know him now. We have been together for 15 years, oh my kids ages are 14, 12 and 4carmen a.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00749045926627173746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-17213210733711162072013-02-28T18:34:04.721-05:002013-02-28T18:34:04.721-05:00I wish my husband can see this, our life is consum...I wish my husband can see this, our life is consumed with our kids he never any time for me. When we go out we go out in separate nights with friends because he doesn't like to leave the kids with anybody. The kids stay in our bed until 10 or 11 pm, sometimes I fall asleep before they leave my bed. I tried telling him over and over that I need sine alone time also and he says I'm jelous because of my kids getting the attention. I'm scared that if we have no time alone when the kids are older we will have nothing on common a it is I feel like I don't know him now. We have been together for 15 years, oh my kids ages are 14, 12 and 4carmen a.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00749045926627173746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-57256281103485914112012-07-12T18:02:24.115-04:002012-07-12T18:02:24.115-04:00This is so true, and so very difficult to accompli...This is so true, and so very difficult to accomplish with a newborn in the home! Our little one will be one year old tomorrow, and I still struggle to show my husband that he is first - not because it is hard to do, but because our child needs me so much of the time. I have promised him that I will lavish more attention on him when she is a little older, sleeping through the night more, etc. The good news is that we are in a covenant before God to love each other and be together for the rest of our lives, and our child(ren?) will only be little a short time. The funny thing is that she is already trying to play us against each other, and we are laying down the foundation that my husband and I are allies and the foundation of the home. She gets angry, then later seems more content. I know it makes her feel safer deep down inside.<br />Sorry to write so much :-)<br />Be blessed, dear one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-28729649819763097802011-10-01T15:11:45.779-04:002011-10-01T15:11:45.779-04:00Just joining in the chorus of "amen"s. W...Just joining in the chorus of "amen"s. When A. and I haven't had enough alone time, it totally affects our ability to parent well. And when we're tense/distant with each other, our girls sense that tension and mirror it right back, in the form of being difficult, whiny, etc.<br /><br />Here's to grownup time!Jane Roperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11326626413173509209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-7843877234843970732011-09-30T10:38:48.043-04:002011-09-30T10:38:48.043-04:00What a great perspective! And beautifully stated. ...What a great perspective! And beautifully stated. You two look very happy. :)Robin | Farewell, Strangerhttp://farewellstranger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-19179568998645025612011-09-29T11:42:08.828-04:002011-09-29T11:42:08.828-04:00Just read this post. So good-thank you!Just read this post. So good-thank you!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00964136163829698732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-36228149479962299022011-09-13T00:16:18.314-04:002011-09-13T00:16:18.314-04:00Oh Yay!!! When I saw this title in my inbox I KNEW...Oh Yay!!! When I saw this title in my inbox I KNEW it was gonna be good... But then upon reading it? This should be required reading for all young couples when they're applying for their marriage licenses! Beautifully said, beautifully lived.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17065921843809619618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-37430336800720571562011-08-24T22:33:49.464-04:002011-08-24T22:33:49.464-04:00What a smart lady you are. :) I think a lot of cou...What a smart lady you are. :) I think a lot of couples could gain A LOT from reading these wise words. <br /><br />Oh, and my marriage comes before my cats, too...it's only the right thing to do ;)Katie @ Chicken Noodle Gravyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02852793993330125727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-49705133373513750262011-08-24T16:20:54.318-04:002011-08-24T16:20:54.318-04:00This is fabalous!! You go girl.This is fabalous!! You go girl.Bernie@OneMixedBaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07734463948343407389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-1789625453444304632011-08-24T08:12:48.939-04:002011-08-24T08:12:48.939-04:00@ducky- so glad you enjoyed it. I like the sugges...@ducky- so glad you enjoyed it. I like the suggestion to do a post about practical tips. Maybe "5 simple ways to put your spouse first". I'll think about it and see what I come up with :)<br /><br />Jenna- thank you. Happy you enjoyed your first visit here! :)Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-69265291301830812362011-08-24T01:24:51.276-04:002011-08-24T01:24:51.276-04:00Amen. Amen, amen, amen! I'm new to your blog a...Amen. Amen, amen, amen! I'm new to your blog and this post totally sold me on your writing. Our kids will grow up knowing that daddy comes first in mommy's eyes (and vice versa).Jennahttp://thatwifeblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-13495255461479515402011-08-24T00:17:22.653-04:002011-08-24T00:17:22.653-04:00Hey Dwija! Thanks for writing this post, a pleasur...Hey Dwija! Thanks for writing this post, a pleasure to read as always. Just wondering if you can give any examples of putting the marriage before the kids, tips that you would give to folks soon-to-be married or spouses about to have their first child. I feel like this is really useful advice, but not being a wife or mother yet I'm not sure how I'd put it into practice.duckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01457124470736040951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-68017979511768797112011-08-23T14:51:58.690-04:002011-08-23T14:51:58.690-04:00I love, love, love this post!! It's so true!!!...I love, love, love this post!! It's so true!!! You wrote it to perfection =)<br /><br />xxCrystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14945252900990987680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-16269238741110857562011-08-23T02:12:02.129-04:002011-08-23T02:12:02.129-04:00Thanks for this! A nice reminder of what comes fir...Thanks for this! A nice reminder of what comes first :)Trouble's Tribunehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04621062792867724360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-26513167129140286892011-08-23T00:18:18.288-04:002011-08-23T00:18:18.288-04:00I totally agree! I used to have a friend who refe...I totally agree! I used to have a friend who referred to marriage as the "sacramental relationship" in the family. I don't share a Sacrament with my children, my husband clearly comes first, which completely blesses all parties involved!<br />This is the first time I've come to your blog, great post!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10135272827538989265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-35551264695574658812011-08-22T23:04:10.691-04:002011-08-22T23:04:10.691-04:00Ryan- Laura finally got you to read my blog!!!! A...Ryan- Laura finally got you to read my blog!!!! And you even created a google account to comment. I am truly touched, really :DDwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-90849712144740143552011-08-22T23:00:37.425-04:002011-08-22T23:00:37.425-04:00WOW! You are an amazing writer Dwija. Refreshing ...WOW! You are an amazing writer Dwija. Refreshing to hear someone make a stand about the vitality and strength marriage can give someone.Ryan M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00917744660879666531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-19128764252412978342011-08-22T22:17:57.138-04:002011-08-22T22:17:57.138-04:00I am in total agreement. That is why we make sure...I am in total agreement. That is why we make sure to have date nights - even if we have to stay in after the kids are in bed. And we already stress to our kids that mommy and daddy need alone time - time to talk, go out to dinner alone, etc. I think it's so important for them to understand that from the start. And I hate when people say it's easy if you have $$ to go out, take trips, etc.....whatever. You can easily work on putting your marriage first from your couch! It's as simple as spending time together instead of becoming two strangers under one roof. Thanks for the post.Tricia @ Take 10 With Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01563306716811758535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-40957943249195445822011-08-22T20:23:55.196-04:002011-08-22T20:23:55.196-04:00Preach, Dwija!
I have always believed in putting ...Preach, Dwija!<br /><br />I have always believed in putting your marriage first. I have gotten mixed results when I've expressed this out loud to people so go you for putting it out there.<br /><br />I really believe that THE MOST important gift we can give our children is to model a healthy relationship for them.Amber_Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01065654066135186743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-36491542087762419452011-08-22T19:36:06.335-04:002011-08-22T19:36:06.335-04:00I'm fascinated and in awe of this post -to the...I'm fascinated and in awe of this post -to the point where I've read it several times and wish I could go back and have a do-over. You and your husband are providing a wonderful foundation.That Uncomfortable Itchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09775377280498782156noreply@blogger.com