tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post85439004323286878..comments2024-03-16T21:01:53.378-04:00Comments on House Unseen. Life Unscripted.: Why I Stopped Not Caring and Started Wearing ConcealerDwija {House Unseen}http://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-77849754060929268042015-04-15T15:01:55.502-04:002015-04-15T15:01:55.502-04:00Dearest Dwija, I love you. Colleen Hammond recentl...Dearest Dwija, I love you. Colleen Hammond recently shared a link to this post, which I had not read before. It is funny that I see this today, as I just pulled every single thing out of my closet to see why I have "nothing to wear" ever. I have put so much in the "give away" pile that I have 2 denim skirts, a wrap-style top that I love (and which YOU gave me when I was pregnant with kid #1 or 2, I think), a dress, and 2 belts. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-13631878812064207182014-03-28T11:31:14.048-04:002014-03-28T11:31:14.048-04:00Johnette Benkovic jokes that wearing makeup is an ...Johnette Benkovic jokes that wearing makeup is an act of charity as she gets older:)<br /><br />I've just come to this realization myself. If they're going to say, "how do you do it?" or "You must be busy/crazy" at least they will wonder how I look so 'good while doing it.<br /><br />Plus its an affirmation to my husband. If I can spend a few extra minutes on my appearance for church and moms nights out, I can easily do that right before he comes home. A great Marriage writer speaks about how we want men to fawn over us like the day they fell in love with that college hottie but we consciously let ourselves go and expect the same treatment. I do my hair during naptime and reapply the lipgloss at 5:00 and he has the same reaction: Wow you've taken care of my children, are feeding me and look great... and the affection comes back. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03781202088311439117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-53384571975485038132013-09-11T20:42:21.444-04:002013-09-11T20:42:21.444-04:00I'm currently reading Gregory Popcak's Bey...I'm currently reading Gregory Popcak's Beyond the Birds and the Bees and there's a quote in there that says something about how the body is the "seat of the soul"...this really hit me! Your post confirms something I've been thinking about a lot lately, so thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! Danny and Jenna's Weddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04088288919660536294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-27588123778139812602013-06-17T16:19:15.600-04:002013-06-17T16:19:15.600-04:00Me too. Thanks.Me too. Thanks.Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05518303804861025379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-21955031080618645242013-05-12T16:03:39.472-04:002013-05-12T16:03:39.472-04:00How did you know that when I finally read this tod...How did you know that when I finally read this today I would be sitting on my couch on Mother's Day not wearing pants at all. Oh, I had pants on earlier today when I went to church...but even that was iffy for me and I was more than tempted just to skip the pants and not leave the house at all. DH left yesterday for a 3week trip to Amsterdam and I am home with the kids by myself again for Mother's Day (tradition in the making). Anyhow I think it is a good reminder to be deliberate in my dress and appearance. It is too easy for me to say "aw, forget it" and list my excuses for not getting dressed or putting on a presentable face. I wanna move to the west side of this mitten just to hang out with you.Mrs. Amenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13284519769561973038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-30434407975957945212012-12-28T18:31:49.705-05:002012-12-28T18:31:49.705-05:00I have that outfit.I have that outfit.momBryannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-38433785183265797162012-12-01T00:02:04.886-05:002012-12-01T00:02:04.886-05:00your so right ! God Bless You ! I have been really...your so right ! God Bless You ! I have been really letting go lately, not caring how I look like and what not. I have a one year old, and thinking about myself is really hard at time. I think about my sons eating, sleeping, moods, activities for him to enjoy that I forget who I am. I really needed this, thank you for this beautiful reminder<br />Mommy of a one year old<br />KandaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14912209260366690836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-75195040615490147882012-11-18T21:57:49.470-05:002012-11-18T21:57:49.470-05:00Love this post! I whole heartedly agree but I don...Love this post! I whole heartedly agree but I don't think I'd ever been able to articulate why. My husband thinks that show "What not to wear" is ridiculous but I have tried to explain how its so much more than just buying new clothes--its about taking care of yourself and showing the world that you feel good about yourself, but I just never could really say it how you put it in this post. Thank you for saying it, and saying it so well!Jessica Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04466789752707312567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-42616140641802115032012-11-18T21:53:58.726-05:002012-11-18T21:53:58.726-05:00well put!well put!Jessica Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04466789752707312567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-88073963565237925262012-11-16T19:38:56.320-05:002012-11-16T19:38:56.320-05:00Oh, I so agree! I am very encouraged by a friend o...Oh, I so agree! I am very encouraged by a friend of mine (can I still call her my friend when she is at least 20 years my senior? Yes? Okay) who has 6 children, the eldest of whom is handicapped (wheelchair et al) and always looks so well put together. Even when she claims that she's grungy and in her house clothes, she still looks a sight better than whenever I'm grunged at home (new word: grunged) So yes. I love this post and all it's contents. Thank you! I hope I remember this when/if I'm a mama!Serendipityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16978369468735860836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-80827137475791202552012-11-15T16:52:27.048-05:002012-11-15T16:52:27.048-05:00Look at you sassy pants! This is such an aptly-tim...Look at you sassy pants! This is such an aptly-timed posts, I have been thinking the same thing lately. I definitely notice that when I make a little effort in the morning (or afternoon, let's be honest) to get "dressed" and maybe throw on some make-up, I feel better about myself, which of course, affects everything else. <br /><br />I'm still not really out of the yoga-pants stage, because I have no clothes that fit and I HATE spending money on new clothes when I feel like I'm always pregnant anyways, but I'm working on it. (The clothes that is, NOT the pregnant part!)<br /><br />I loved how you approached this, perfect. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01280382571775715364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-52759554414008810152012-11-14T10:57:57.464-05:002012-11-14T10:57:57.464-05:00Eddie was more my guy than Kurt - but YES - this j...Eddie was more my guy than Kurt - but YES - this journey took years, the mentalities were buried in the psyche in all these surprising places! (Still finding them?? I'm only 5 years into marriage and on toddler #2, we are still perfecting this mothering operation!) Nihilism and sloth merge so conveniently in the psyche as well...from style to sin/concupiscence in less than 60 seconds! Even though I was always a 2-sided coin, 1 side loving to dress up for special events like prom and dances, and the other loving to rock a flannel and skip the makeup, it amazes me how easily I absorbed the mentality of the day which I nicely took into my college campus ministry conversion a la "spiritually poor means not caring about the hair and makeup or what anyone thinks of me, judge me for who I am not what I look like." Never could quite shake the back and forth though, it depended on my mood, I was 75 % plain jane and 25% fashionable - which tells you something, being always drawn back to femininity. We are meant to prepare and groom ourselves, just like we are meant to work on acquiring virtues and advancing the purification of our souls (through the work of the Holy Spirit)! I think at the end of the day the reason I kept bouncing OUT of the feminine grooming was that NO ONE could give me a good reason to be feminine! That just wasn't PC! Nobody was talking about it. Thankfully that has changed a whole lot! Nice reflection Dwija, important stuff. LPatterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01513484184251700148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-42477159178203667602012-11-13T20:39:51.098-05:002012-11-13T20:39:51.098-05:00How you've expressed yourself here in your com...How you've expressed yourself here in your comment is quite eloquent! Thank you.Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-79304799300844687062012-11-13T20:37:41.137-05:002012-11-13T20:37:41.137-05:00Excellent post! I'm pretty passionate about th...Excellent post! I'm pretty passionate about this issue, I think because I was a homeschooler and I was always obsessed with people assuming my homeschooler status by how I dressed. Eventually my obsession with not looking homeschooled turned into developing my own style and look. Now that I'm a young mom at home, I believe how I dress and take care of myself is a reflection of the joy and fulfillment I feel in my vocation and it's one of my strongest tools for evangelization. Thank you for so eloquently sharing this sentiment :-) Ellen Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01282413486073228102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-43288424740609536752012-11-13T19:24:24.298-05:002012-11-13T19:24:24.298-05:00I hear what you're saying, I really do. I hav...I hear what you're saying, I really do. I have the same faults, the same shortcomings. It can be downright atrocious sometimes! What I've found is that for some reason, when I take a moment with the outward things, I somehow feel more calm and patient and kind inside. An uncluttered home and an uncluttered appearance often smooths the edges of my frustration. It probably seems counterintuitive, but my list seems so much shorter when I've prepared physically to battle it. And nothing fancy, honest. Just...you know...not pajamas ;)<br /><br />So maybe don't think about it as a thing to add to the spiritual to-do list but rather as a tool toward accomplishing the real, important things that are already on there. Does that even make sense? I do talk too much, that's for sure!Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-86532708135178486042012-11-13T19:17:53.749-05:002012-11-13T19:17:53.749-05:00Let me try again...Ugh!
get what Aunt B is tryin...Let me try again...Ugh!<br /><br /> get what Aunt B is trying to say, I think anyway. :) Don't get me wrong, I respect what you are saying, too, Dwija. For some women, being intentional with self-care and dress and personal appearance might be just the thing God is calling them to focus on. I get that and you're right to mention it.<br /><br />But for other women, being intentional about personal appearance might not be as vital. Take me, for instance. I can be terribly impatient and rude to my 5 kids and husband. I lack generosity and a joyful attitude and instead of responding with love to the littles around me, I react in anger, especially when I'm inconvenienced. I could spend the rest of my life being intentional in this area alone and still have major work to do. :) Sigh. <br /><br />I'm not so sure everyone woman needs to be intentional in their dress and hair and make up. Quite frankly, to add this to my spiritual to-do list overwhelms me. Perhaps that is not what you meant and perhaps that's how I'm reading things...<br /><br />I overthink things in a major way...shocking, I'm sure.<br /><br />Have a great day.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10266406253983025758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-23257182885725336792012-11-13T19:16:00.107-05:002012-11-13T19:16:00.107-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10266406253983025758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-68824047411702353162012-11-13T15:29:57.919-05:002012-11-13T15:29:57.919-05:00I don't know if any of you are familiar with t...I don't know if any of you are familiar with the singer Marie Bellet, but she has a fantastic song that speaks to this. It is called "What Difference Does It Make?"<br />helgothjbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09406542027890269879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-83253025151516663152012-11-13T14:37:49.518-05:002012-11-13T14:37:49.518-05:00There are righteous justifications for my overstuf...There are righteous justifications for my overstuffed closet and vanity each morning? alright!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331732943613936677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-12915506294060350882012-11-13T13:06:49.523-05:002012-11-13T13:06:49.523-05:00I agree with so much of this! I refuse to not get ...I agree with so much of this! I refuse to not get dressed everyday. I also homeschool so I know how easy it would be to stay in a track suit and ponytail every single day. I was a daily ponytail wearer until just this past month when something told me that if I was going to have all this hair, the least I could do was treat it well. Not to say there aren't still ponytail days, but they are now once or twice a week as opposed to all the time. Excellent post! :)~zandra~http://ancfam.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-41119629892751733722012-11-13T10:13:07.938-05:002012-11-13T10:13:07.938-05:00Baby steps...baby steps...!Baby steps...baby steps...!Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-53444456655821564142012-11-13T10:12:15.936-05:002012-11-13T10:12:15.936-05:00Ok, Dwij- I'll put on concealer and comb my ha...Ok, Dwij- I'll put on concealer and comb my hair. But the flannel stays!Jenny's Vegcafehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09822613057446516660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-42967280735149452982012-11-13T09:01:36.347-05:002012-11-13T09:01:36.347-05:00love this! i am soooo guilty of sweats at home but...love this! i am soooo guilty of sweats at home but getting dressed fun to go hang out w/ my friends on my rare solo-excursions. Though currently I always have a cute baby accessory since she is not leave-able yet :)Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03691072328903638486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-68542911592108064492012-11-13T07:45:35.889-05:002012-11-13T07:45:35.889-05:00Hah! Love it! See? Being intentional doesn'...Hah! Love it! See? Being intentional doesn't have to be something crazy. And it means different things for everyone! For me it's yes on the lipstick but no-not-ever on the powder :)Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6378450001604002654.post-53321261965721335412012-11-13T07:41:45.885-05:002012-11-13T07:41:45.885-05:00And I would say that if make-up makes you feel unc...And I would say that if make-up makes you feel uncomfortable, then don't wear it! The idea isn't to be someone you're not as much as the best version of the person God intended you to be. I don't dye my hair either and I don't cake the make-up on because that isn't me. But shuffling around in my pajamas all day isn't me either ;)Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.com