Saturday, July 06, 2019

Ask Dwija vol. 1: Peaceful life with teens

A few days ago I responded to a DM from a reader about my experience so far parenting teens (and I only have two of them yet, so I am still very much a noob!) and decided to screenshot my reply and share it in my Instagram stories. Well, the Holy Spirit must have been on a mission that day because, despite my lack of experience and qualifications, a lot of people were really encouraged. Yay! Shari from Catholic Paper Goods even volunteered to whip up a PDF with a link so anyone requesting a readable copy could refer to it whenever they wanted to. Eep! So generous! I nervously accepted her offer and you can now find that pdf here. She even thought of setting it up in a q&a format in case this is the sort of thing anyone wants to see more of. There were several people who specifically mentioned the blog as well, so here I am after an entire year hiatus pasting the text and praying it is of some good use. I didn't forsee any of this when I replied to the dm, so I don't have a vision or preference or any expectations! Just tryna do my best by all my fraaaahns (that's all of you). Okay, I think that's it! Thanks for the kindness and please keep praying for me.


Q: In regards to relationship with your teens, I have the hardest time 1) not micromanaging, 2) ignoring anything that smacks of disrespect or rudeness, which with teens—and argumentative-natured teens at that—is PLENTY, and 3) keeping most exchanges in a friendly place (by which I mean closer to friends conversing than parent-child type). We are both similar in personalities and neither are laid-back, both generally convinced we’re right, and not about to be out-logicked out of that claim! So I am curious, have you had anything similar, do you just tell yourself to be more tolerant and ignore the rude while not sinking to rudeness yourself and hoping that with time such things will change? I think I can probably make myself do that, it’s just there’s a sneaking worry that if I don’t correct it now, he will deploy into adulthood as an at-times jerk, and that will be bad for him and for others. 

Saturday, June 09, 2018

Master Bedroom REVEAL - picture heavy

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I am so friggin happy with this room update, mah party people. Because our room wasn't "that bad" compared to some of the others when we moved in, because it wasn't a common space that we all shared daily, because it wasn't really relevant when we entertained, we put off sprucing it up for almost four years.

Until it was better, we didn't realize how much we avoided going in there unless absolutely necessary.  Now, of course, it's the best room in the house.  And unlike the bathroom, which I also still love, it's a little more socially acceptable (and spacious. and fragrant) for us to all hang out in there together. 

Time for the good stuff!


Listing pic:

Maybe the main issue is a difference in style and color preferences?  Let's call it that.

Pictures while we lived here:

Are you reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeadyyyyyyyyyyyy???

Saturday, February 03, 2018

Small Bathroom Redo Reveal (picture heavy)

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Sometimes maybe we limit our labeling of miracle to things like people walking on unfrozen water and blind men inexplicably being able to see, but I'd like to encourage you to expand your appreciation sphere by including things like, oh I don't know, not running out of cucumbers by the end of the week maybe, or having that one extra diaper when you were sure they were all gone or, oooooooooooor, OR me blogging twice in a seven day period.  The Lord is powerful strong, y'all.

The bathroom is finished!

Okay, well...if I were a proper lifestyle blogger, I would have 100% more fresh flowers and hand-lettered prints and wrought iron grates and reclaimed wood thingies, but honestly I just needed to take some pics and get them posted before my kids trash the place, canIgetanamen.

Step 1: If you have not seen all the before pics yet, go to there first.  I'm not in a hurry.

Step 2: Welcome back!  I'm excited.

Monday, January 29, 2018

Tiny main bathroom redo- before pics

At the beginning of the year, I decided agreed to publish something, just one single little measly thing, on this blog just one single little measly time per month. Welp, not sure if you've seen a calendar lately but it turns out that January ends this week. This week. THIS week. WUT. 

So I'm going to post some before pics of the smallest/main bathroom in our house because when you live in an 1870s-ish farmhouse, sometimes the bathroom on the main level is built under the staircase and the door to get into said bathroom looks like a pantry door in the kitchen.  Woe to the guest who opens that door without knocking expecting to find garam masala and instead finds a, well, you can imagine the rest of this vvvvv softball joke.

First, the wide angle lens photo from the real estate listing.

Thursday, October 19, 2017

Breathing Room

Every year I try to grow vegetables in our kitchen garden.   We amend the soil with compost and clear it of weeds and remove the rocks and oh gosh, there just seems to be so much SPACE when it's all empty and bare in April. Clearly I can plant unlimited quantities of all the things.  "Oh yes, we shall have the harvest to end all harvests this year, dear husband."

Plant 2-3 seeds spaced 36 inches apart.  Thin seedlings to one plant per spot once first true leaves have developed.

36 inches apart???  THIN THE SEEDLINGS?? Why would I give up my chance at the harvest to end all harvests by waaaaaaaaasting all that precious space? Nope, nope. I mean, look at how tiny these little seeds are.  They barely take up any space at all.  The more the merrier, I say. I can double the output of this bit of earth, believe you me.

Thursday, January 19, 2017

That quote

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Many moons ago, I read a quote from Ven. Abp. Fulton Sheen that helped me redefine and reframe the small irritations of daily life.  But I could not, could not, find it anywhere, so of course I threw myself at the feet of my facebook friends, who are brilliant internetters, until we finally scrounged it up.

It's from a book called Fulton Sheen's Wartime Prayer Book and goes like this:

Monday, January 16, 2017

Two Babies

What I was planning to do is to share some before pictures of our downstairs bathroom that I'd like to set on fire lovingly remodel soon.  But wait!  Look at how sweet my babies are!  Nom nom nom.
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